"You've Changed..."

One of the two words that I hate the most when re-iterated to me.
I don't know what it is about them, but I just don't like them.
If someone ever repeats them to me (and there have been many situations where they have been), it kind of cuts down into my heart (literally).

When I say that I'm a plethora of emotions...I really mean it. But yeah, back to what I was saying.

Sometimes, depending on the situation, I can take it as a compliment, but other times, I take it as an insult.

I've come to realize that some say it in a sense of surprise: you know, like there was this one person who used to act and/or dress a certain way...and when you meet them a couple of years down the line, they made a complete 360 degrees.

Others say it as a kind of "adding insult to injury" kind of way. As in, they realize that a certain someone is not acting like they used to be, and out of sadness and anger, they pulled the "you've changed" line.
Example: Ever noticed in a movie, a good person starts suddenly doing shady things, and someone love finds out, confronts them, pull the "you've changed" line, and the good person starts looking back and questioning everything they stood for and blah, blah, blah.


My question is: why do people catch feelings when someone "changes"? Isn't that the point of life itself? People never stay the same, we're constantly changing to adapt to our surroundings, as well as subconsciously through all the experiences we've been through....what I've noticed is people pull the "you've changed" bullshit, when they feeling like someone who've they've always been with begins to grow and spread their own wings to fly, and they realize that they're eventually not the main subject in the person's life anymore...


In summary, I believe the "you've changed" line is a selfish thing...